Upcoming Events: next 12 months

Any I missed?  Fixes needed?
Write me at  alan7388 (at) gmail.com
—Alan M.,  Polyamory in the News



● RelateCon
April 27–29, 2018
Boise, Idaho

"Empowering Relationship Diversity" was the theme for the first-ever RelateCon in 2017, which drew about 120 people — impressive for a first event. It's organized by the Boise Polyamory Network. From the 2017 description: "RelateCon provides a unique and supportive gathering place for polyamorous people to connect as a community through educational workshops, social spaces, and opportunities for networking. The core value of this conference is to empower healthy relationships across a myriad of configurations." Facebook. Twitter. Wrote Ginger Polynirvana, "We are able to offer a simultaneous Professional track at RelateCon, which will offer CEUs to a wide variety of disciplines such as lawyers, social workers, counselors, and teachers." Here's Kitty Chambliss's enthusiastic writeup of the 2017 event. Here's the local alternative weekly paper's writeup.


● Rocky Mountain Poly Living (Denver)
April 27–29, 2018
Denver, CO


This will be Rocky Mountain Poly Living's fifth year, after drawing 100 to 150 people for its very successful first three. In 2016 I gave the keynote speech. It's run by Loving More (based in Colorado), which has put on Poly Living East in Philadelphia every February for 12 years. Here's the list of the Denver event's workshops in 2017. Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.


● PolyLove fesztivál
May 4–6, 2018
Budapest, Hungary

Hosted by Poliamoria Magyarország. From the announcement: "2 és fél nap az alternatív (pár)kapcsolatok, család, a szabad szerelem és a szabad gondolkodás jegyében. Akár csak 2017-ben, most is lesz előadás, workshop, beszélgetőkör, mozgás, tánc, kreatív műhely, és minden, ami csak érdekel. Gyertek el, tegyétek fel kérdéseiteket, osszátok meg gondolataitokat, tudásotokat, tapasztalataitokat egymással! Azokat is várjuk, akik nem, vagy csak keveset tudnak a témáról, de szívesen tudnának többet. ... A PolyLove fesztivál célja, hogy a poliamoriát és etikus többpartnerűséget ismertebbé tegye, baráti hangulatú teret nyújtson, ahol az iránta érdeklődők megoszthatják gondolataikat, kérdéseiket, tapasztalataikat egymással, megélhetik és felvállalhatják identitásukat, és az őket érintő témákban inspirációt kaphatnak."


Großes Polytreffen, Spring (Germany)
May 1–5, 2018
Germany

The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.de, organizes transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. The organizers say the gatherings serve as "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self-organized by the participants. Minimum age 18. Two 'Grand Poly Meetings' take place every spring and fall; these draw 120 to 150 people for up to 70 workshops, talks and other events. The smaller winter meeting gathers about 40." In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced.


International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy
May 4–6, 2018
Berkeley, CA

Usually in February, this year it's in early May. "This conference will explore issues related to monogamous and nonmonogamous relationships from an interdisciplinary perspective. This event will be devoted to presentations of scientific and academic research related to polyamory, open relationships, swinging, other forms of consensual nonmonogamy and related subjects. The conference does not take a position on whether any particular type or style of relationship is healthy or pathological. The intention of the event is explore the subject in as objective and unbiased a manner as possible. Presentations will cover various topics that offer some possible progress to a deeper and more complete understanding of the phenomenon of consensual nonmonogamy."


May 18–22, 2018
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV


This is a smaller, more intimate version of New Culture Summer Camp held every July at the Abrams Creek Retreat Center in the mountains of West Virginia; see July here for description. These events draw about 70% polyfolks; their focus is on building practices of transparency, self-understanding, communication skills, and intimacy that can create radically better relationships of any type. The events aim to build, over five days, an enduring network of like-minded people who don't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after most events. "The point is building tribe," says organizer Michael Rios. I've gone to the larger New Culture Summer Camp for the last seven years, and attended the smaller Winter Poly Wonderland retreat in January 2018, and I can't recommend New Culture events highly enough.

The description of Spring Camp 2018: "Let’s play and discover together! The #MeToo movement has exposed the pain of living in a culture where others are treated as vehicles to get needs met instead of as sovereign, beloved beings. We have been trained to ignore our inner truth and/or to push through others’ objections, and as soon as we start to connect, our wounds and difficulties emerge. At Spring Camp, we’ll dive into compassionate, loving exploration of our desires and boundaries – spiritual, sensual, emotional, and more. Starting with intensive training in consent and clear communication, we’ll be gently encouraged to step into our power as autonomous, playful, flexible beings."



● International OpenCon Catalonia
May 18–21, 2018
Galliners, Catalonia, Spain

2018 will be OpenCon Catalonia's seventh year. It was modeled on the U.K. OpenCon with a self-generated "unconference" program. "An opportunity to get together in a friendly environment and share our experiences, our questions, the lessons we’ve learned, and the joys we’ve experienced in this new territory of polyamory/non-monogamy/open relationships. The basic plan is to combine workshops with plenty of opportunities for relaxing and socialising. Check the what will happen page for details on the programme as it develops." Capacity was increased to 60 people for 2017, but it still sold out well in advance. Here are an account of the 2017 conference and more about past years. The working language is English. Over 18 only. Update: SOLD OUT as of Feb. 19, 2018.



● Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference
May 19, 2018
Chicago, IL


This one-day event happened for the first time in 2017, with big help from the Relationship Equality Foundation. It sold out in advance. From the 2017 description: "Our goal is to help bring the Chicago non-monogamy community together across all the lines that divide us — age, gender, race, class, location, ability, configuration, label, and all of the other categories which house us." For 2018, "CNMC will be all about taking the privilege out of polyamory: addressing race, sex, ability, and class in the non-monogamy community." Facebook page. Presenter application deadline: April 15.


Atlanta Poly Weekend
June 1–3, 2018
Sheraton Atlanta Downtown, Atlanta, GA


A super-friendly weekend hotel conference of talks and discussions on poly relationships and making them work, and whatever other topics people propose; comedy, dance, and games; community building and socializing. Here was the 2017 schedule. Kid-friendly. I came to the very first APW in 2011, have been back most years (see my writeup from 2012) and gave the closing keynote talk in 2013. Attendance is about 200 people.



Foro Poliamor
June 2018? (dates to be announced)
Valle Cardós in the Upper Pyrenees, Spain

This event, first held in 2017 "is a weekend gathering that celebrates polyamory and non-monogamous ethics." The venue is "in Ribera de Cardós, a beautiful village at the foot of the Catalan Pyrenees, in a quiet, comfortable and beautiful place that we reserve exclusively for us.

From the 2017 description: "You will find a myriad of workshops and talks, according to a mixed format that combines workshops set up by the participants themselves and programmed activities. You will be able to learn and acquire tools, techniques and skills to foster your relationships, connect and share. With related people, expand your affective network, without forgetting to have fun, all in a safe, inclusive and respectful environment with diversity. The event will be trilingual: Spanish / English / Catalan, and will have the support of interpreters." Elisabeth Sheff's reflections on attending in 2017.



OpenCon València
June 15–17, 2018
Alboraig, València, Spain

"Un esdeveniment per a compartir experiències sobre les relacions afectives ètiques no normatives: Poliamor, Anarquia Relacional, Xarxes Afectives, etc. Un cap de setmana de debats, tallers i activitats lúdiques que ens brindaran l'oportunitat de conèixer gent amb idees i actituds obertes entorn a les relacions afectives. Un espai on compartir experiències i inquietuds sobre models de vincles entre les persones, des d'una perspectiva feminista, solidària i basada en el respecte. El contingut de l'OpenCon el proporcionen les persones assistents, per la qual cosa cada convocatòria és una sorpresa i una experiència única." Poliamor Valencia Facebook page.


● Polyamory Unconference
June 16, 2018
Columbus, Ohio


This is a one-day event by the folks who throw the big Beyond The Love convention in the fall. "Polyamory Unconference is an event that is run by you, the participants! Attendees get to propose, vote on, and run sessions themselves. You’ll set the agenda and create an environment of innovation and productive discussion! Request topics and workshops on issues that you want to hear about, or present something — a facilitated discussion, a workshop on a specific skill, or a lecture on a topic you are familiar with. Advantages of the unconference format include: a focus on topics that are relevant to the attendees, an opportunity for teamwork development, flexibility of schedule, and an emphasis on contributions from every participant. The relationships built during an unconference often continue well past the event."


● Polywood Camping 2018
July 6
8, 2018
near Eganville, Ontario

"A kid-friendly poly camping weekend, at Raven’s Knoll Campground. Join us for a weekend of community building as we learn from each other via informal discussions, socializing, and fun. Come meet fellow like-minded poly people around the large communal bonfire; take part in various relationship building and strengthening discussions; share your poly knowledge and experiences over wine and cheese." Swimming, showerhouse, food truck. Camper hookups available, dogs welcome. The program for 2017.


● Network for a New Culture Summer Camp East
July 13–22, 2018
Abrams Creek Center, Mount Storm, WV

I've attended this interesting, powerful, ten-day event for eight years in a row. Network for a New Culture explores building intimate sustainable community through practices of curiosity, transparency, self-exploration, and self-responsibility. The days are structured around ZEGG Forum, various self-improvement and human-potential presenters offering their stuff, and sharing life, work, and play in the West Virginia mountain woods.

“While not exclusively a poly event,” says co-founder Michael Rios, “Summer Camp East is about 70% polyfolk, and 100% poly-friendly.” Here are my impressions from my first year. Here's a bit more from my fourth (last two paragraphs).

About 75 to 90 people attend. Vegetarian group meals; cabins and campsites in the woods (no vehicle hookups); bathhouse with sinks and hot showers. Some indoor accommodations are available onsite. Conditions are rustic, but a camp-owned motel is 3 miles away. Kids welcome; inquire about kids' program. Beautiful, and accurate, promo video (I'm in it).



● PolyDallas Millennium

July 13–15, 2018
Dallas, TX


Writes co-organizer Ruby Bouie Johnson, "PolyDallas Millennium is a sex-positive sexual health symposium that is a platform for marginalized and oppressed groups. We provide education on ethical non-monogamous relationships in an oppressive and stigmatizing society. Educators, activists, and community leaders that are representative of the attendees engage the audience in shared language and experiences. PolyDallas Millennium is a symposium that has space and joy for all communities and all ways of being.

"PolyDallas Millennium’s 4th Annual Symposium [for 2018], "Rewriting the Rules," looks at those social constructs that historically have systematically oppressed, suppressed, and subjugated the fluid relationship structure of non-normative and non-white relationships. Restricting and rigid societal, legal, and religious rules are rooted in the threat of loss of property, fear and scarcity. An aspect of the rigidity includes nullifying the celebration and expression of sexual and emotional wants, needs, and desires.

"For 2018, some of our featured speakers are Meg-John Barker PhD, Feminista Jones, Kevin Patterson, Dalychia Saah, Marla Renee Stewart, Julian Addams Wolfe, Milton Goosby, J Mase III, and others. We have over 40 speakers, and there are 3 synchronous workshops. We provide CEUs for professionals and CE’s for AASECT certification or recertification. Similar to 2017, in 2018, Thorntree Press has a strong presence with 4 authors signing books, including the authors of More than Two. We have 20 core volunteers. Feel free to email at polydallasmillennium@gmail.com ."



Minnesota PolyCon
July 21, 2018
Minneapolis, MN

This new one-day event will include workshops and presentations on sex positivity & consent, anatomy of arousal, solo poly, polyamory & mental health, poly & parenting, poly & religion, deconstructing jealousy, being out & poly, and fundamentals of good communication for your polycule. Sponsored by the MNPoly Meetup group. "More details coming soon!"


Rocky Mountain Polyamory Family Campout
Summer 2018 (dates to be announced)
Aspen, CO

Robyn Trask and Jesus Garcia of Loving More hold this informal family-friendly campout nearly every year. 2018 will be the 16th year. About 30 people attend. Robyn writes, "Join us for a weekend of hiking, playing, and just hanging out with other poly families from the Rocky Mountain Region. This is the one thing each year where the kids get to join in. My kids love the campouts as much if not more than I do. It is wonderful to enjoy the beauty of the Colorado Mountains and spend time with wonderful poly people." Contact form.


● Colorado Poly Weekend
Summer 2018 (dates to be announced)
Winter Park, Colorado


Now in its third year, "the Colorado Poly Weekend is an annual long-weekend vacation retreat for polyamorous people and people in poly relationships to hang out together in a poly-normative, accepting environment. Relax, go on hikes, play board and card games, soak in the hot tub, practice your puns and innuendo, dance and play music together, and talk and make new friends with other interesting, fun, poly people. This event is hosted at a lodge in beautiful Winter Park, and all meals from Friday dinner to Monday breakfast are provided at the lodge."

A couple dozen attended last year. Organizer Tom Satter says that this event is quite different from the Loving More Campout, which is run by his Loving More friends. "The campout is for families and is a camping event. Our retreat is for adults only, because there does tend to be some drinking and a lot of innuendo and we tend to play adult-oriented games like Cards Against Humanity. Our retreat is also lodged based — people pay one fee for the weekend ($180 to $250 per person) and that covers all lodging and food from Friday afternoon to Monday at noon. I donate monthly to Loving More and really like Robin and Chuy when I get to see them."



● Midwest Open Relating Extravaganza (MORE)
Summer 2018? Dates to be announced?
Columbus, Ohio

Second year for this event ... if it happens (still waiting). From the 2017 description: "We will provide a number of social and educational events for those who identify as polyamorous, kinky, swinger, non-monogamous, open, or in some other way practicing an alternative relationship style to default prescriptive monogamy." Lodging available. It was hosted by the Relationship Equality Foundation, Open Hearts Columbus, and Cincinnati Polyamory Meetup.



On the dock at Polycamp Northeast
● Polycamp Northeast
Aug. 10–13, 2018
Southeastern New Hampshire


This 3½-day event began with a smashing success in August 2016, then grew larger over Labor Day 2017. I found myself among 65 extraordinary people, mostly new to me, who self-organized a variety of talks and fun activities: nonviolent communication techniques, general poly discussion, the latest STI information, yoga, campfires, board games, a kayak race, cuddle party, dance. The venue is a well-equipped old New England summer camp (all the cabins have private baths) in the New Hampshire lakes region north of Boston. Waterfront with paddleboards, kayaks, canoes, water trampoline. Three meals a day included. It's put on by organizers of New England Polyamory.


Endless Poly Summer
August 17–22, 2018
Abrams Creek Retreat Center and Campground, Mt. Storm, WV


This will be the fifth year for Endless Poly Summer, the largest of the seasonal poly and New Culture retreats that Sarah Taub, Michael Rios, Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver and friends produce at Abrams Creek. These aim to build, over five days, an enduring intimate community. I've gone to their (mostly poly) Summer Camp East for the last eight years. New Culture's practices for community creation and interpersonal-skills development are remarkable and effective.

From the website: “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.... Spend up to 5 days in a rustic woods-and-water setting, hang out around a bonfire, enjoy a song circle, cuddle up at a snuggle party, learn to take your relationships to the next level, and build connections with others that last all year long! We invite top-notch presenters, and live, work, learn and play together for up to 5 days or more.” Beautiful, and accurate, promo video (I'm in it).


At Burning Man
Aug. 26 – Sept. 3, 2018
Nevada desert

(Note: You cannot get into Burning Man without a ticket that's legitimate by Burning Man's anti-scalper rules.)
Village of PolyParadise
Poly Paradise has been running at Burning Man for two decades. This is a large theme camp cluster, typically 200 x 500 feet, with 250 to 300 campers, about a third of them new each year. Workshops and events include Heart of Now, Poly High Tea (now with Poly High Juice Box), the famous Human Carcass Wash, the Hiney Hygiene Station, Mind Melt, Revolutionary Honesty, and a poly mixer. Writes Benevolent Dictator Scotto, "PolyParadise 2017 was absolutely incredible and our best effort yet at creating this amazing On-Playa home. Each year there are many challenges and together we find a way to make things right, together we build an amazing space within the gates of BRC, a place to really call home in the desert." Details.


OpenCon Madrid (Spain)
September 2018 (dates to be announced)
Avila, Spain


"OpenCon Madrid is an international event open to all those who want to discover that happy and sincere relations are not necessarily monogamous." This is a self-organized unconvention in the style of OpenCon Catalonia and the original OpenCon in the UK. "Debates, workshops and recreational activities that will give you the opportunity to meet people with your same ideas and attitudes, share experiences and concerns, help strengthen our community and enjoy its diversity." The working language is Castilian. 2018 will be OpenCon Madrid's fourth year. The venue has been a large house in the country 100 km from Madrid, maximum capacity 70. The conference has sold out fast when registration opens.


Großes Polytreffen, Fall (Germany)
October 5–9, 2018
Gut Frohberg, Germany


The German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.de, organizes transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. According to the organizers, the gatherings serve as "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical know-how. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants. Minimum age 18. Two 'Grand Poly Meetings' take place in the spring and fall; these draw 120 to 150 people for up to 70 workshops, talks and other events. The smaller winter meeting gathers about 40. In the last years the meetings have been sold out within days."



New Culture Fall Camp

October 5–8, 2018
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV


This is a somewhat smaller, more intimate version of New Culture Summer Camp held every July at the Abrams Creek Retreat Center in the mountains of West Virginia (see July here for description). These events draw about 70% polyfolks; the focus is on building practices of transparency, self-understanding, communication skills, and intimacy to create radically better relationships of any type. The aim to build, over several days, an enduring network of like-minded people who don't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after most events. "The point is building tribe," says organizer Michael Rios.

I've gone to the larger New Culture Summer Camp for the last seven years and can't recommend New Culture events highly enough. From the website: “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.... Spend up to 5 days in a rustic woods-and-water setting, hang out around a bonfire, enjoy a song circle, cuddle up at a snuggle party, learn to take your relationships to the next level, and build connections with others that last all year long!”

Explains Michael, "We are exploring the questions: What does it mean to be there for each other? What would it take to be solidly present in each others’ lives, responding flexibly and with love to the needs that emerge? What might we do right now to be there for each other? What role does commitment play? The deep truth is that each person is fundamentally alone. Yet at the same time, there is beauty and skillfulness in interdependence.... And beyond merely meeting needs, we can find delight in co-creation, and in the many ways we can support each other in greater joy. At this community journey, we will open these explorations in a field of love, curiosity, and compassion."



Polyday 2018 (UK)
October 13, 2018
London, UK


"Come and meet hundreds of people that identify as non-monogamous at the largest event in Europe on polyamory, Relationship Anarchy and other forms of non-monogamy. New to polyamory or just curious? Experienced in all forms of non-monogamy? Something in between? Polyday has something for you! In previous years talks have covered designing relationships, sexual health, polyamory and mental health, polyamory and children, and BAME and non-monogamy. Additionally there will be opportunities to socialise, meet up after the event, and quiet space if you need a break." Facebook event page.


Beyond The Love
November 9–11, 2018
Columbus, Ohio

The BTL producers drawn by Tikva
Wolf. (Ginger stayed home.)
This ever-growing, rollicking hotel conference moved to a larger space in a new hotel for 2017. For the third year in a row, it sold out several weeks in advance. Total attendance was 263 with another 30 stranded on the waiting list. The conference organization was superb, the attendees were amazing and interesting, the energy high, and all of the presenters that I caught did excellent jobs. Many local volunteers help to put on a rich social schedule in addition to the four tracks of sessions during the day. Here are the 2017 presenters, classes, and schedule.

Also: the triad who organize it say they are eager to help you learn how to put on a poly hotel conference, and they can provide you their project-management software that tracks everything to do starting six months out. Contact them at producers(at)beyondthelove.org.


2019

Winter Poly Wonderland
January 25–28, 2019
Abrams Creek Retreat Center, Mt. Storm, WV



Michael Rios, Sarah Taub, Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver, and their friends and partners in Network for a New Culture organize a number of poly and poly-friendly workshop retreats around the year at the Abrams Creek Conference Center in the mountains of West Virginia. Their overarching goal is to build, over several days, an enduring network of like-minded people from all over who won't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after most events. “The point is building tribe,” says Michael.

I went to Winter Poly Wonderland 2018 and have attended the (largely poly) Network for a New Culture Summer Camp East for many years. New Culture's practices for community creation and interpersonal-skills development, from ZEGG Forum to understanding-your-relationships workshops, are ideal for this ambitious goal. “Here is where you can meet other poly people at a deeper level, learn the skills needed to handle your relationships, and become a part of a supportive network of people who share your relationship values.” Winter Poly Wonderland is one of the smaller, more intimate of these events; 29 of us attended in January 2018.


● Poly Living East (Philadelphia)
February 2019; date to be announced
Philadelphia, PA


Poly Living is put on each year by the Loving More nonprofit group, in an excellent large hotel near the Philadelphia airport and a rail stop. This will be Poly Living's 14th year (the 12th under Loving More's management). It's been drawing a lively crowd of 200 to 250 people. Here were the 2018 workshops and schedule, to give you an idea of what goes on (room parties not included). Here's my writeup of the first Poly Living I attended (2006). In 2012 I gave the keynote speech. I'll be back again this time. Hope to meet you there!

Loving More, "supporting polyamory and relationship choice since 1985," is the original poly organization of the modern era and played a central role in getting the whole movement going.


● Kleines Polytreffen, Winter (Germany)
February 28 – March 5, 2019
near Fulda, Germany

Since 2008 the German organization PolyAmores Netzwerk (PAN) e.V., at Polyamory.de, has been organizing transregional "Poly Meetings" for German-speaking polyfolks in Germany, Switzerland and Austria. According to the organizers, the gatherings serve as "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. Also theoretical discussions and the planning of cultural and political activities. The programme is self organized by the participants. Minimum age 18. Two 'Grand Poly Meetings' take place every spring and fall; these draw 120 to 150 people for up to 70 workshops, talks and other events. The smaller winter meeting gathers about 40." In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced.


Playground Conference
February or March, 2019 (date to be announced)
Toronto, Ontario


This "sex-positive, inclusive, & intersectional event" is put on at a downtown hotel by Samantha Fraser and friends, to "bring together the brightest minds in sexuality education, activism and media to examine the ways in which the sexual and erotic play a part in our everyday lives. Everyone is invited to attend, from those looking to educate to those looking for education. And most importantly, those looking to have FUN!

"Over the course of 2 (and a half) days, a variety of workshops and presentations will touch on things including sexual pleasure, consent, rape culture, gender identity, kink, non-monogamy, dating, sexual / relationship fulfillment and more. Playground is an all-inclusive and intersectional event for every community to take part in and celebrate diversity." Fraser is author of Not Your Mother’s Playground: a realistic guide to honest, happy, and healthy, open relationships. The keynote speaker in 2018 was Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models and author of Love's Not Color Blind. Facebook event page for 2018.



Poly Big Fun
Spring 2019
near Austin, Texas

The usual site in Bastrop State Park for this weekend event (run by the Poly Austin community) was unavailable in 2018. "We have located a new possibility for 2019 though." Watch the website for updates.


Southwest Love Fest: A Conference on Ethical Non-Monogamy
March 29–31, 2019
Tucson, AZ

The first Southwest Love Fest in 2018 was a great success, selling out with just over 200 people, remarkable for a first-time event. I was there. The vibe was exuberant and excited, the attendees (80% from Arizona) were great-hearted and significantly diverse, the presenters I saw were mostly excellent, and the Saturday-night social-activity events included a simultaneous treasure hunt, psytrance-music dance party with costuming available, and a cuddle-puddle in a pop-up gazebo under the stars. There was child care, and self-organized discussion sessions on a new alt-sex community-wide response to abusers, and brainstorming on poly activism and the Polyamory Leadership Network. The smallish, tropical-style hotel was an excellent fit; it felt like a hotel takeover, a vibe the management allowed.

Conference organizers Kate Kincaid and Sara Bachmann-Williams had recruited about 8 or 10 committed, long-term volunteers from the Tucson and Phoenix poly and kink communities, and the size of the con seems to have been due to word of mouth. Heavy involvement by the local community seems to make the difference for the success of a polycon. Conference organizers in other cities, including Atlanta's Billy Holder and the Relationship Equality Foundation, provided mentoring and vetted the hotel contract. In turn, says Kate, she and Sara will help advise anyone who wants to start a hotel polycon in their own city (write to southwestlovefest AT gmail.com). They hope to enlarge Southwest Love Fest for 2019.



● Polytopia
Spring 2019 (date to be announced)
Portland, Oregon

Sex-Positive Portland will host the city's fourth annual "polyamory and open relationship symposium and celebration." The 2018 event sold out with a capacity of 150. From the 2018 description: "Curious about polyamory? Opening up your relationship? Already loving more and ready for something more? This weekend exploration of polyamory includes an opening night gala, workshops, panel discussions, a poly house party and a guided poly puja. Polytopia offers two types of workshops – for those who are already well-experienced with polyamory, and ones for those relatively new to navigating the joys and pitfalls. Come learn, play, and explore your edges. Bring your friends and extended poly family, meet new friends and lovers, find your people!" Adults only: 18 and over. The 2018 presenters and schedule.


● Solo Polyamory Conference 2019
Spring 2019 (date to be announced)
Seattle, WA

From the 2018 description: "Building on last year’s inaugural worldwide event in Vancouver BC, in association with Facebook's largest and most vibrant solo polyamory discussion group, this is your opportunity to meet other solo non-monogamous people and share real life experiences! Are you new to polyamory and exploring the many possible configurations, or been practicing honest non-monogamy for decades? Regardless of where you are on the experience spectrum, you’ll appreciate the support, community, camaraderie, hospitality, and awesome keynote speakers we’re assembling for your enjoyment, learning, and growth. This conference includes social events, keynote speeches, unconference-style sessions in which participants offer their own discussions, workshops and skills sharing." The 2018 conference, held at the Phinney Neighborhood Association, sold out at capacity 150.




To add an event (of wide geographic interest, please) email it to me at alan7388 {at} gmail.com.




Kimchi Cuddles characters and stories are based the cartoonist's real life. See her followup strip. And yes, she, "Rajeev" and "Terra" all made it to the Beyond the Love polycon in Ohio.







How to find your LOCAL POLY COMMUNITIES
and their get-togethers!

For socials, potlucks, discussions, support, etc. near you, find and join your local poly group(s). You can:

● Try googling polyamory [your state or city]

Check Meetup.com with keyword polyamory and enter your zip code or city.

Search Facebook for polyamory [your state or city].

● Check these lists:

– Directory of Local Poly Groups maintained on Facebook. It's editable! If yours isn't here yet, add it.

– Tristan Taormino's big list (needs updating), on the website of her book Opening Up. (Send additions, corrections, and changes to raymond (at) puckerup.com )

 Canadian Polyamory Groups, courtesy of the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association.

– Local Poly Group Registry, currently hosted by Michael Rios at polyinfo.org. This once-grand list seriously needs updating. Send additions, corrections, and changes to groups (at) polyinfo.org. If you can help the updating project, please write to that address.

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Can't find a local group near you? Maybe that's the universe saying you should start it!

Here is organizer Kitty Chambliss's Polyamory Guide to Community Building. "So perhaps you’d like to start a community from scratch right in your local area. I’m going to give you a roadmap for success to do just that!"

And here are Joreth's many thoughts on the kinds of poly community events that might work in your area. She's been an organizer for a long time and has pretty much done it all.

Prefer audio? From the Polyamory Weekly podcast: Episode #365, Building your poly community with meetups; and Episode #464, Building Your Poly Community as it grows.